So, up until now I’ve been hesitant to blog about my relationship. I think I’ve felt concerned it might be somewhat of a betrayal. In reality though, me skirting over such a large part of my life means I’m only half sharing who I am with you. And I’m all about sharing…
Firstly let me share my perspective on relationships. I see them as a dance, They’re fluid and flowing and have small nuanced shifts that can set you askew or bring you closer together. Relationships need to be constantly worked on. The last thing to do with any relationship is ignore the subtle shifts, to passively believe ‘everything is ok’ when in reality no relationship stays still, and if it did there’d be some serious trouble.
So let me introduce you to my ‘dance partner’, Keivor (northern European man’s name/Irish woman’s name; he’s actually as English as they come). He is my best friend and greatest inspiration.
He’s a non-conformist, he has spent most of his adult life working for himself, creating sculptures that move. He’s eccentric, curious and inquisitive. On our first date he took time to explain this new creation of his, he was all arms and legs, prancing around acting out what the sculpture would do. We were in a room full of people and I turned up with this spider-like ultra excited peacock acting out a seven-foot water fountain that bows down to pour you a drink. (Incidentally he made it a reality – check it out) On reflection, I’m surprised I didn’t end things there and then with this bizarre creature! But I knew there was something very different about him.
Basically, my boyfriend is exactly who is. I have spent many years trying to please other people, I’ve morphed and contorted in situations to make sure I fit what I think others expect of me. But since meeting Keivor, I have realised that just being who you are is the greatest gift you can give anyone in any situation. To be authentic and honest about how I felt was scary at first, slowly but surely however I stepped into this way of being, guided by someone who would never consider approaching life in any other way.
